Self Esteem vs Self Compassion

Whenever I hear from clients that they want to work on their self-esteem, I question what they think self-esteem means to them. Their answers generally consist of, “I want to like myself more,” “I want to feel valued by others,” “I want to have more self-worth.” The common theme here is that self-esteem is based...

The three books that have influenced my individual therapy style the most are Bonnie Badenoch’s Being A Brain-Wise Therapist, Bruce Perry’s, The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog, and Daniel Siegel’s Mindsight. All of these books provide an inside look at the brain from an attachment perspective. In other words, they each bring the...

‘You are the music / While the music lasts’ – TS Eliot

When I’m home alone and feeling out of sorts, I find that it can sometimes be difficult to face my feelings alone. At times like this, it can be hard to connect with the people who I’m closest to and sadly, my therapist does not offer a 24 hour hotline, as much as I wish...